Why Is It So Hard To Forgive My Cheating Wife?

I love my wife even though she cheated. Why is it that I just can’t seem to forgive my cheating wife? I want to forgive her. I just can’t force myself to look past how she has hurt me. Is there any way at all to save our marriage?

Forgiveness is not synonymous with tolerance. When we forgive, we often mistakenly understood everything as just putting up with the mistake that is why it is so hard for us to accept. We crave for settling scores either directly or indirectly. Is this hard to admit? Then essentially, you can consider yourself as really human.

The Saga of Perfection

Far too often men place the women they love on a pedestal. The view from this lofty perch may be incredible indeed but no woman can live up to an ideal. They are human just as the men they love are human. Over time, they become exhausted by trying to live up to the expectations of the men they love and they fall. Usually, they fall in a big way, like cheating.

Cheating for women starts in a different plain from that of men. Women cheat for emotional longing. She doesn’t just cheat just for the sake of fun. She cheats to get away from her husband’s nonsensical expectations of perfection. She cheats and falls to the other guy who never demands perfection, and who appreciate her imperfections, and slipups.

Where did her cheating start? What is the root cause of her affair? Did I in one way or another pushed her to do such an unwise decision? What does the new guy have or have to offer that I don’t and didn’t do?

There is no Blameless and there is no Fault

Why do you think a lot of bad things happen to good people? Because there is no good person. Exactly.

That doesn’t mean she took the risk lightly or that she didn’t feel driven into the arms of the other man.

Is it merely out of risk knowing that she can get away with it?

Do you think you have contributed to her straying away?

The real question you need to ask is this: If you forgive her and get your ex wife back can you keep her from cheating on you in the future?