How Many Chances Must I Give My Cheating Husband?
He fooled around once. The result for that is a bit discomfiting that you having a hard time accepting the idea of letting him off the hook. Definitely you prefer that your marriage is saved.
You have not stopped loving your husband but at the same time you are not comfortable with the idea of forgiving him only to find out later that he cheats on you again, right? Asking “how many times should I forgive my husband?” occupies most of your time than contemplating on the idea of the merits he has to deserve a second chance. This is definitely not good to any of you two. There is a need for you to explore your options and decide the best mode of action to follow. Is One Time One Too Many? For some women, a cheating husband is something they just can’t handle. It’s too large of a betrayal or something that just hurts too much to confront day in and out. There’s nothing wrong with that. You are the one who has to live with your decision for forgiving your husband for cheating or not forgiving him. Forgiving him however, doesn’t mean you need to continue living with him as husband and wife. You can never be obligated to stay and be with him after the cheating he did, of course exception to that is if you choose to stay with him. A number of women simply cannot move on after the cheating to let it pass and anticipate a possible future. That’s another completely understandable situation which has something to do on your feelings about the marriage, the husband and the vows you both gave to each other. Forgiveness is not a Free Pass It does not mean that after you have forgiven him, he already has the right to go out again and cheat on you once more. That should be clearly understood.
There is no reason that with the forgiveness you gave you both should expect his freedom to cheat again just because of the forgiveness you gave. But then again, this is one situation where both of you need to sit down and have that long and strong conversation so that you may decide to get back together. He must understand, very clearly, that it is a second chance that he is given and he can waste it at the same time but he must be aware of the consequences. Definitely a Third Strike Won’t Exist This is a point you need to stress to your cheating husband. You may be inclined to give him a second chance. You are only offering one second chance. If he strays this time around he will not get another turn at the plate (to put it in a language he’s sure to understand). If has been given a chance before and still he went again and risk ruining what you have built for your relationship, then it is but the right time to take one step backwards and spend time totally apart. It is your choice of course to give him another chance, but serious changes must be effected by both of you if the intention is still to make the relationship work.